So your spouse had an affair… What are you supposed to do now? How are you supposed to feel? Is it OK to feel angry, sad, confused, guilty, and numb all at the same time? What’s the next step? Now that the ugly truth is out in the open, you find yourself forced to deal… Read More So, your spouse had an affair…
If you find yourself in the terrifying position of being caught (be it after an affair, online chat/hook-up, pornography, etc.), I want to tell you that it is possible to make it through. It won’t be easy. It will require diligence and intentionality, but there is hope – not only for yourself, but for your spouse, family and marriage as well.… Read More Life After Ashley Madison – 7 Tips to Help Move Towards Relationship Restoration After You Have Been Caught
“I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars.” –Og Mandino I’m a night person because that’s when the stars come out. I sometimes sit on my back porch in a wooden chair and stare out into the blackness, hiding from… Read More Fears, My Back Porch, and the Lesson In the Stars
I was talking with a group of graduate school students the other day about how important it is to take a break and intentionally care for ourselves. Why is it so difficult to do this? For example, I used to play guitar. Now it has been months–if not years–since I have picked one up and… Read More What Feeds Your Soul?
The recent passing of Leonard Nimoy brings a profound sense of loss not only for the man himself, but also for the beloved half-human, half-vulcan he portrayed for so many years in television and film. Mr. Spock is truly an American icon, curiously evoking so much love and emotion for a character who was supposedly the pinnacle of… Read More Lessons from Mr. Spock
It’s 6:45 a.m. and I am sitting in the terminal. Problem is, my flight departed at 5:30. My destination is the snow-capped mountains of Fraser, Colorado where I will be spending the next 4 days at a Ransomed Heart boot camp. My prayer to this point has been that I would be open to what… Read More In need or being needy
I remember hating the movie Groundhog Day when I was younger, mainly because it felt like the movie would never end – which was the point as far as I can tell. It dawned on me recently that this is very much like grief. The process often feels so slow it’s like you’re waking up… Read More Grief and Groundhog Day
Today is New Year’s Day, and many of us are just waking up after a late night of celebration, counting down in eager anticipation of the new year. This day is lauded as more than just the first day of a new calendar; it is the dawn of a hopeful new era of possibility. Many… Read More Depression, Mistakes, and Another Year
Anxiety is the only mental problem with which I KNOW I’ve ever been diagnosed. (How’s that for an opening line?) As such, I’m intimately aware of how exhausting it can be. For example, I used to fill my plate with food, then proceed to eat only one item at a time. I’d sooner walk across hot… Read More Anxiety!
I was the kid who was constantly on his bike, and when I say constantly I mean it. I was also the kid who could never quite manage to make it home on time – after all, what shade of ‘dark’ did my Mom mean when she said ‘Be home by dark’? At some point… Read More Cultivate Your Child’s Worldview